As a codependent, you:
• Assume responsibility for others’ feelings and behaviors.
• Feel guilty about others’ feelings and behaviors.
• Have difficulty identifying what you are feeling.
• Have difficulty expressing feelings.
• Are afraid of your own anger, yet sometimes erupt in rage.
• Worry about how others may respond to your feelings, opinions, and behavior.
• Have difficulty making decisions.
• Are afraid of being hurt and/or rejected by others.
• Minimize, alter or deny how you truly feel.
• Are very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
• Are afraid to express differing opinions or feeling.
• Value others opinions and feelings more than your own.
• Put other people’s needs and desires before your own.
• Embarrassed to receive recognition and praise, or gifts.
• Judge everything you think, say, or do harshly, as never “good enough.”
• Are a perfectionist.
• Are extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
• Do not ask others to meet your needs or desires.
• Do not perceive yourself as lovable and worthwhile.
• Compromise your own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others’ anger.
In its broadest sense, codependency can be defined as an addiction to people, behaviors or things. Codependency is the fallacy of trying to control interior feelings by controlling people, things, and events on the outside. To thecodependent, control or the lack of it is central to every aspect of life.